Recently our school had a teacher come speak about Simplicity Parenting. It was the most inspiring talk I’ve been to in a long time.
She spoke about how important it is to remain connected to your kids through childhood, adolescence and beyond. She reminded me that even when my child thinks that the most important thing in the world is her peer group, she is really looking to me to help mold her interactions with that group.
The real gist of the talk, though, was the fact that maintaining this connection is not easy to do in today’s very busy world. If we can manage to simplify our family’s lives staying connected will be much easier. She gave a few tips that seem absolutely essential.
- Make family mealtimes sacrosanct. Let nothing interfere with eating one meal per day together.
- Limit after-school activities. Even one afternoon per week can be stressful.
- Limit media and check cell phones at the front door.
We need to recognize that our children (especially teens) need their friends, but they need their parents more.
She recommended a book that I ran home and ordered right away.
Gordon Neufeld’s book titled Hold On to Your Kids is all about why it is so important that you remain the most important person in your child’s life. He gives advice based on experience and lets us know that he understands why parenting is so difficult today.
I can’t recommend this book enough for parents of teens.